About Hilary Life Coaching
I help adults with ADHD find clarity, calm, and confidence, and finally feel capable of doing everyday life on their own terms.
I'm Hilary!
I’m happy you’re here.
If you’re exhausted from trying to “just be consistent” and white-knuckling life, take a breath. You don’t need fixing.
You need support that actually understands your brain. Let’s build that together with compassion, humor, and zero shame.
I coach adults with ADHD who feel overwhelmed, burned out, ashamed, and tired of feeling like they’re failing at “simple” things. My work blends emotional regulation, nervous-system awareness, real-life strategy, and a deeply personal understanding of ADHD.
I help you understand your brain, stop beating yourself up, and create systems that actually work for you… not the internet, not your neighbor, not your neurotypical cousin Dave. But you.
I support adults with ADHD across the world through secure virtual coaching, helping them feel grounded, confident, and capable, while embracing their beautifully neurospicy brains.
Meet Hilary Andreini, PCC
ADHD Coach, Advocate & Human
I didn’t find out I had ADHD until I was 40 after my daughter's teacher flagged her for the ADHD inattentive subtype. And I thought, “Hmmm, that sounds familiar.” Suddenly, my entire life clicked into place.
The overwhelm, the anxiety I thought was “normal,” the shame over laundry piles, the pit in my stomach when I forgot things, the impulsive spending, doom-scrolling, and the ADHD tax… it all made sense.
Therapy helped me breathe again. Coaching gave me power. So I became the coach I needed: someone who understands ADHD from the inside out, honors trauma and nervous-system needs, and believes that shame is never the path to change.
I work with compassion, strategy, creativity, and yes, sometimes a well-placed “fuck” to break tension and remind us we’re human.
Training & Professional Credentials
Positive Intelligence Trained Coach
ACO Coaching Enrichment Committee Member
HR & Recruiting industry background
Trauma Resource Institute training
Coaches Rising: Neuroscience of Change
Cognitive Ergonomics From the Inside Out
Credentials
Affiliations
Tools & Approaches I Use:
ADHD-informed coaching
Emotional regulation + nervous system support
Trauma-informed coaching
Strength-based + self-compassion practices
Positive Intelligence
Mindfulness
Habit and routine design for neurodivergent brains
Body doubling & accountability
Who I Support & What We Work On
ADHD (diagnosed or self-identified)
Emotional dysregulation
Executive dysfunction
Overwhelm & burnout
Shame & negative self-talk
Productivity + follow-through struggles
Relationship strain from ADHD patterns
Work stress + performance challenges
Core Values
What Guides My Work:
Clarity
Coaching isn’t about me giving you answers, it’s about helping you find them.
Together, we bring awareness to the patterns, emotions, and blind spots that have kept you stuck.
Clarity brings relief, and from relief comes real change.
Empathy
I don’t coach from theory: I coach from lived experience, science, and heart.
I know what panic feels like when you have avoided so long it’s due tomorrow. I know shame after losing patience with your kids. I know the gut-punch of forgetting something important.
You will never have to explain “why this is hard,” unless you want to! I already get it, and I sit beside you, not above you.
Humor + Safety
ADHD life is intense and sometimes laughter is part of healing. We take your growth seriously, but we don’t take ourselves too seriously.
You get compassion and grounding, but also laughter and lightheartedness. Safety and humor co-exist here, because your nervous system matters, and so does joy.